A nice fantasy versus the harsh reality

On one of the mailing lists I'm on (yeah, antique technology, but I've been on it since the mid-1990's) someone commented that if anyone understood how the female brain actually worked, they should write a book on the subject. So I recommended Athol Kay's "Married Mand Sex Life Primer". Wow, I wound up receiving an incredibly vitriolic response about how abusive whole idea was.

So I guess there are still a lot of people out there who don't want to know the truth even though they say they do. They still think gender is merely a social construct. The reality is that men's and women's brains really are wired differently. Understanding how the female mind works can be used to do some very abusive things. It can also be used to provide a very comfortable and happy environment for a woman. Not understanding it is a major contributor to the sky high divorce rate we see today. Being an asshole is currently very effective, being a nice guy is typically a losing strategy in the mating game. However, I think and Mr. Kay has certainly demonstrated that there is a middle ground between being an abusive asshole and a unattractive milktoast, that's what I strive for and I hope others do the same. Just because I know how to do terrible things doesn't mean that I'm going to them, knowledge itself is neither good nor evil, it's how we apply that makes the difference.