Visit to a local church

This past Sunday I visited a local Unitarian-Universalist church that I haven't been to for a couple of years.  Back then they were between permanent ministers, now they have had a new minister since August.  She's seems nice enough, but I suspect she is a raving feminist.  There was a guest in the pulpit this last Sunday, so I didn't get a feel for her sermons.  However, the service had some of the usual feminist touches, including substituting "She" for "He" when referring to God.

I think the one thing that annoyed me the most was the children's storytime (a common feature in UU churches).  The protagonist was a little girl (no surprise there) who repeatedly followed her urges in spite of being warned about the dangers who then gets off by being cute.  This is a really bad lesson to be promoting.  Choices have consequences, and the education in moral and ethical behaviour is one of the reason many parents take their children to church.  Telling little girls that they can get away with their misbehaviour is doing them (and the rest of society) a great disservice.

I find the Unitarian-Universalists churches to be interesting.  While they to be open and accepting of diversity, most of the time it's only a very narrow kind of diversity.  Not being politically liberal seems to be one of the kinds of diversity that they won't accept, even though the Universalists tended to be of a rather conservative bent.

I'm glad I went and I will drop back in from time to time, but it's obvious they don't want someone like me, except maybe for the money.

Those poor deluded fools

One of the professional organizations I'm a member of is currently having a rather drawn out discussion about coming up with a harassment policy for conferences and shows.  And, while they may try to sound egalitarian about how it applies to everyone, it's really about those "poor oppressed women" in who are being driven away from computing and other IT related careers by the hordes of obnoxious sexist males they encounter.  There is also a strong undertone that sexism, harassment and oppression have gotten a lot worse over the past few years.  Yeah, right.  The reality is that women are trapped into continuing to play the victim card by the liberal narrative that many geeks and nerds follow, since women aren't allowed to actually stand up for themselves.

So, how did this come about?  Well, geeks and nerds are typically not very socially adept, I know because I am one, so they tend to believe the stated rules of behaviour in our modern society.  Which, of course, are total bullshit.  Add to that the removal of social restrictions on female hypergamy even over the past decade or so, and fewer women than ever are willing to spend time around those sorts of "losers", when there's some hot bad boys they can be chasing after.  This leads to women making more and more excuses for their behaviour, and the geek brigade takes their words at face value, instead of seeing the truth.  And, as the demands from the women get shriller and shriller, the foolish nerds become even more obsequious.

It took me decades to get rid of the misconceptions I was raised with about gender relations, mostly because things weren't all that bad thirty years ago.  With the way things are going today, I wonder how long it will take for the younger generation to wise up.  I know that I am trying to move the process along, with a few small successes, but that by trying to understand both sides of the issues I have placed myself in no-man's-land and folks at either extreme are going to be taking shots at me.

And he keeps going...

It seems that Mr. Scalzi is still at it.  He's feigning wide-eyed innocence and asking "Why are so many folks saying such angry things?".  Umm, yeah.  He is obviously enjoying poking a lot of folks in very sensitive spots and chortling over their responses.  There's a name for people who take pleasure in causing others pain (and it's not M.B.A. graduate).  Maybe he's doing it out of a desire to save their souls.  Or was that Torquemada?

It's kind of pointless to argue with anyone who has that strong a sense of self-righteousness, whether they are liberal or conservative.  It will take a much greater shock than mere words to shake that sense of infallibility.  As always, I hope it will be some sort of positive life changing experience instead of a negative one.

Since he is a highly trained professional, I recommend against getting into an argument with him, with his eloquence, he will almost certainly win.  Other than that, I do envy the fantasy that he is successfully living in.

A dissenting view on beta treatment

I've been reading University of Man for a little while now and I find myself disagreeing with his current "Shame the Beta" drive.  To start with, the whole idea of making people feel ashamed or guilty has been way overdone in modern society.  It's just piling even more negativity onto men who are trying the best they know how to have a life and relationships. 

There is a lot of talk of "Alpha" and "Beta", with Alphas being defined as men who display dominance.  But what is dominance?  The most common definition in the manosphere seems to be someone who is unrestrained by the rules of society.  These kind of men will gladly destroy anyone and anything to get what they want, they are vandals.  This works really well for picking up and bedding women, but in the long run it is unsustainable.  Another kind of Alpha is the leader of men.  Not through being bigger and badder, but by being better.  The sort of man who attracts followers through admiration instead of fear.  The sort of man who then pulls his people up instead of beating them down.  That's the sort of man who builds civilizations.

I have personal experience with the vandals of our society.  That's the normal behavior in modern business and it really sucks.  I've also had experience with having troubles and learning that there is no support for people like me, the world would be happier if I just went off and died.  I'm probably not unique in having experienced that there is only ridicule abuse and exploitation when I asked for help.  This is not the sort of world I want to be a part of.

So, I'm calling to all of you who read this to reach out and help your brothers.  Go ahead and get the hottest girl for yourself, but make sure your brother gets the second hottest.  Help your brother learn the annoying truth about gender relations.  Not by beating on him, but by being his friend.  Not with scorn, but with wisdom and kind humor.  Try to make the world just a little bit better, in the long run we can all benefit from it.

Taking the Blue PIll

This is a follow up to my previous post about John Scalzi and his assertions of the advantages that straight white males have.  I'm a fan of his Science Fiction work and have been paying attention to what he has said about personal history.  It has led me to think about the bad guy in the first Matrix movie who wanted nothing but to have the reality of the world he was living in wiped away and to go live a wonderful fantasy.  That was his agreement with the machines.  I really get that.  Mr. Scalzi managed to get his in the mating game a couple of decades ago and hasn't really been paying attention to the realities of gender relations since then.  Lucky guy.  In addition, he's become a big name in the Science Fiction communities (and he deserves it), so has spent a lot of time with people who are a long way from average.  With the reinforcement from so many adoring fans, it's tough to get objectivity.  Not to mention he is a writer, so to be successful he really need to have a very strong belief in himself and his abilities.  So, I can really understand his viewpoint, I just think he's a deluded fool, who seems to have a bit of the "don't confuse me with facts, my mind's made up" attitude, which I have run into quite a bit with liberals.

Watching the aftermath has been interesting.  He certainly seemed to enjoy ridiculing those whose disagreed with him but lacked anything close to his skills with words.  As another author I know once said "never get into a war of words with a highly trained professional".  He also has been getting lots of support from other folks, but I have learned to pay attention to not only what is said, but to the silences.  One of the folks who remained quiet is a Mormon (or LDS Church, if that's a more comfortable term).  I'm of the opinion that the Mormons have a much better understanding of human nature, particularly gender relations, than almost any of the liberals I have met, so if he was to speak up it could have a negative impact on is career and income.  I applaud his wisdom in staying out of the discussion.

There's a lot more I would like to say, but I would run the risk of sounding mean and narrow-minded, so I'm going to stop with this.  Even with people I loathe, I never want to descend to trying to dehumanise them.

We must hang together....

...or we will surely hang apart.

It's always been one of my favourite quotes and I think it is is very applicable in today's world.  We have been very effectively manipulated into destroying our communities and so we are hanging alone.  At the same time, other groups have effectively organised to destroy folks like me.  It's frustrating.

Yeah, this is nothing new, so why am I writing about it now?  Well, John Scalzi wrote a blog post today at whatever.scalzi.com likening being a straight white male to playing the video game of life on the simplest setting.  Yeah, he's deluded, and it's not surprising.  He's an award winning science fiction author with a wife and daughter living in semi-rural Ohio.  I've read his work and he is a very talented wordsmith.  I have also read his blog for a while now and it has, at least to me, some very interesting on how he got to where he is today.  He was lucky enough to find the one woman in 10,000 who would actually call a guy who gave her his card.  This was roughly 20 years ago, before the mating game had reached it's current level of insanity.  For a greater insight into his character, look up the video of him on Oprah.  Since then he has gone on to become a famous author with thousands of adoring fans who show up to see him at conventions.  He's also well socialised and does a very good job of interacting with the public, unlike some authors I have known (rest in peace Jack, my friend).  Not surprising, he is also a flaming liberal and it keeps getting reinforced by the environment he lives and works in.

What's my point in all of this?  Well, I'm speaking out against the liberal narrative that brands people like me as evil.  I'm tired of being told that I have such a great life because I'm a straight white male.  No, I have an adequate life because I have an IQ of 145 and I've been working hard for most of my life.  I've never married because I was stupid and actually believed what I was taught growing up, I didn't discover the "Red Pill" until the last few years.

So, stand up for yourself and, more importantly, your fellow man.  Humans came out on the top of the evolutionary game by their ability to work in teams, teams larger than any other creatures out there.  We need to reclaim this ability.

Thoughts on Mothers' Day

Over the past few years I have learned to avoid going to church on Mothers' Day, or at least to be ready for massive hypocrisy.  You see, I typically attend Unitarian-Universalist churches, which follow the typical liberal narrative that says that women should be independent and have careers instead of having a family.  It is really annoying.  While there are occasional words from the pulpit in favour of families, the majority of what is said, and more importantly, done is in effort to discourage family formation within the church membership.  This is so typical of the Unitarian (but not always the Universalist) mindset that I am tired of dealing with it.

Look folks, that's a good way to commit cultural suicide.

It's not quite as bad as some of the Liberals I've spoken with who believe the world is already overpopulated so white folks shouldn't breed at all, just adopt children from poor countries.  Of course, you don't see them actually doing that, they just want ever other member of the "privileged" white class to do it.

Another case for the Red Pill

This is one of those odd situations that I've been meaning to write about for a month or so.  In a nutshell, I'm trying to figure out how to get a coworker to take the "red pill".  Unlike most of the folks who I would normally try to explain "Game" to, he's a fairly natural alpha.  He's tall, slender, in really good shape and looks 15 years younger than his real age (he's in his mid 40s).  He's been divorced for a couple of years now with a teenage kid.  From his description, his ex-wife just went totally crazy and dumped him for a younger guy, and I suspect the reality is pretty close to that.  After that he wound up dating someone half his age for several months who apparently got pretty heavy into drugs after they split up.  He's still really upset about the divorce and the anger sort of surrounds him, I find it really noticeable whenever I spend much time around him.  He certainly seems to be good at attracting women, but I'm starting to think he may be attracting ones who have a lot of issues and they go for him because a serious hormone/endorphin rush.  He seems to be genuinely interested in long term relationships, but is lacking the skills to keep someone around.  If I get the opportunity, I'll recommend "Married Man Sex Life", but it's a rather daunting task given the amount of anger he has.  Plus, I haven't had a date in a long time, so I doubt he will listen to anything I have to say.  He has the Alpha trait of thinking he is always right about everything, so trying to contradict him is more effort that I really want to expend.

I'm not sure what I will wind up doing, but I did want to get my thoughts down in writing.  It's my nature to try to help people, which is not a successful personality trait in modern society.